On Modest Clothing

Modesty is a hot topic with believers especially in a day of hoochie-momma skirts and push-up bras, and given the uprising of ghetto-culture, let us not forget the baggy pants craze where young men somehow find it cool and happening to expose their underwear by wearing pants that don’t fit and going shirtless with tats and chains.

I’ve been shopping with my four daughters and there is no doubt that pursuing modest clothing for young girls is way more difficult than teaching a boy to wear a belt and keep his shirt on.  My daughters have come home many times quite discouraged that the only offerings in the stores for them seemed well fit for Britney Cyrus Gaga than for them.

As a result of having to make apparel decisions for and with them, I have come up with three principles that we use in making modest clothing choices. Here they are:

  1. To the degree that what you wear exposes your skin to the public eye, is to the degree that you are immodest.
  2. To the degree that what you wear fits tightly around your body accentuating your figure, is to the degree that you are immodest.
  3. To the degree that what you wear draws attention to and emphasizes your female body traits, is to the degree that you are immodest.

Notice the key word here is ‘degree’,  since I believe that hard and distinct lines are not always easy to draw in these areas and I would rather my girls learn discernment and proper decision-making in this area of their lives instead of simply following a ‘dad approved’ list.

Applying these guidelines – short pants five inches above the knee are more immodest than shorts that go past the knees and shorts that go past the knees that are baggy are more modest if they are not skin tight or have some crazy logo branded on the buttocks.

I think this approach is unarguably sensible and easy to follow though we might not all end up with the same clothes.

About ostrakinos

Pastoral sojourner in the world. Raising up four daughters. Citizen of earth. Resident of heaven. Taking ten looks at Christ.

Posted on July 30, 2010, in Experiential / Application, Family Life / Parenting and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. Well put. I like to think of it in terms of what it draws attention to. Obviously, they shouldn’t be chosen for their ability to draw attention first of all.

    However, where you already have attention, where do they draw attention to. If they bring focus to your face, that’s good. If they draw the eyes to some part or another of your body, that’s not good.

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